Ryan Cragun, a sociology professor at the University of Tampa (who also happens to be ex-LDS) considers it an unexpected byproduct of the growing importance of the mission in the life of Mormon men; faced with the choice to serve or not (at a young age when they may not be fully ready to commit), many have chosen to leave.The more pressure to serve, the more they feel obligated to leave altogether if they don’t meet this requirement (rather than remain and lose status in the community).A young adult approached with an authoritative parental attitude, may react with defiant rejection of all parental input (common in strong-willed children) or resentful compliance in which your daughter may give lip-service to your desires, without heart commitment.
(As a boy I was a science geek and always close to the science teachers, who were uniformly terrific.) Also, he’s got a thing for cult films, and I had to laugh out loud, because that is one of my daughter’s passions as well, so in that respect at least they seem well matched.
But talking to her about it kind of got me thinking.
If I were in that position, would I want to try to date a Mormon woman or a non-Mormon?
They just started dating, but still, I was again proud of her for being proactive about it and getting out there and making an effort, which appears to have led to some promising initial traction.
She is no longer in the Church, so religion is not a major consideration for her.